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It’s a beautiful Saturday morning..the 31st day of August and also the last day of the month of August…. Wow, God has been faithful and He has brought me this far and I’m so delighted to be a partaker of His grace and mercy….. So here’s wishing everyone a beautiful happy weekend.
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Hello everyone, I believe y’all are doing well and great… It’s been a while since I posted on my blog because of the super hiatus…but one thing is for sure I’m definitely back and better.

I believe with God’s grace and help, things will get back to normal as it was before… honestly I’ve missed WordPress and definitely the visitors so much and being back is so refreshing and rejuvenating.

Thank you to everyone who still visited my blog during my hiatus and also to everyone who reached out to me…I’m grateful…and definitely looking forward to your visits,comments and constructive criticism.

Thank you.

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Motivation for today


*Don’t complicate life. We won’t be here forever. Once this day is over, it’s gone forever. Your time is too valuable to waste on nonsense.*

*No matter what knocks you down in life, get back up and keep going.*

*Never give up. Great blessings are a result of great perseverance.*

*Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit.*
*Talk about your joys.*

*Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient, and the best things come to those who don’t give up.*

*Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.*
*Disappointments were not meant to destroy you. They were meant to strengthen you & give you fortitude to accomplish your God-given destiny.*
*We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but of appreciating what we do have.*
*Your child will follow your example, not your advice.*
*One day, you’ll be just a memory for some people. Do your best to be a good one.*
*Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company.*
*Don’t fear change. You may lose something good, but you may also gain something great.*
*When you love what you have, you have everything you need.*
*The greatest act of faith some days is to simply get up and face another day.*
*Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have. *GRATITUDE.*
*Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you. *COMMITMENT*c
*When you choose to forgive those who have hurt you, you take away their power.*
*Patience is not the ability to wait, but how you act while you’re waiting.*
*Isn’t it ironic:*

*- We ignore the ones that adore us*

*- Adore the ones who ignore us*

*- Love the ones who hurt us*

*- Hurt the ones that love us*
*Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together. Every story has an end, but in life every end is just a new beginning.*
*You were born to win, although to be a winner, you must plan to win, prepare to win, & expect to win.*
*Every day is a NEW beginning, take a deep breath and START AGAIN.*
*You are loved.*

*You are wonderfully made.*

*You are beautiful.*

*You have purpose.*

*You are a masterpiece.*
*Don’t compare your progress with that of others. We all need our own time to travel our own distance.*
*Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher.*
*Bad things happen:*

*- Every day.*

*-To everyone.*

*The difference is in how people deal with it.*
*When you make a commitment, you build hope. When you keep it, you build trust.*
*Two things define you: Your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything.*
*Being honest may not get you a lot of FRIENDS but it’ll always get you the RIGHT ONES.*
*Shoutout to everyone trying to get their life together. Working on yourself is the hardest part of life. Keep going, no matter where you are.*
*Be selective in your battles. Sometimes peace is better than being right.*
*Keep people in your life who truly love you, motivate you, and make you happy. If you know people who do none of these things, let them go.*
*Be happy not because everything is good, but because you can see the good side of everything. *OPTIMISM*
*NO ➔ Shortcuts*

*NO ➔ Quick fixes*

*NO ➔ Blaming others*

*NO ➔ I’ll do tomorrows*

*Surround yourself with positive people who will support you when it rains, not just when it shines.*
*Being defeated is often a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.*       

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emotional healing

I have come to realize that words like I LOVE YOU, I MISS YOU, I’M ALL YOURS… no longer mean a thing. Someone
can tell them to you and at the same time tells them to someone else h/she flirts with. Then you ask you yourself what is that person up to? Does he really mean it when he tells them to me or she means them when she tells them to other guys? What does he really want? Aren’t I enough
for her? Why can’t she decide on the right person to stick with? Why keeping around with all those people? How is it possible that person can miss and love 2, 3…people at the same time? Doesn’t he feel so bad when he’s wasting all his money on those girls? Taking them on dates, buying them
expensive things? Doesn’t she feel so bad when she’s serving her body to all those sex hungry guys? Doesn’t he fear to acquire viral diseases from those girls who sleep
around with other guys? Doesn’t she feel so bad sleeping in the same bed where other girls sleep in her absence?
My friends be careful with your hearts and bodies. Not everyone that tells you I love you, I miss you… that mean them. Some say them with different intentions and a few
mean them. Take your time to fully understand someone, know their goals in the relationship, don’t easily trust
someone and never quickly give in your all to someone.

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Whoaa…its a blessing to be alive once again,witnessing another beautiful year. I’ve been AWOL for some time now,but I’m happy to be back. Did anyone miss me? Yeah,firstly let me start by wishing you all a Happy New Year..congrats we all made it..all to the Grace and Mercy of God.

Secondly,Its a New Year,A fresh start…new hopes,new dreams etc. Does anyone believe in making resolutions? Hmmm? Anyways, whatever you set your mind to achieve this New Year,may you achieve it excellently in Jesus Name.

Thirdly, please I need you help, kindly leave a comment on whatever you read on this blog. Please,it helps to improve my blog and make amendments where necessary and to serve you better.
Thank you very much as you do that.

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a new me

I no longer have patience for certain things,not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a
world of opposites and that’s why I avoid
people with rigid and inflexible personalities.
In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and
betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.

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Thoughtful Thoughts

Ever wondered how the people in hell will be feeling right now? In a hot dark red fiery fire, crying,wailing, regretting, asking for just a chance to right their wrongs, asking for just “one” chance to accept Christ in their lives…hmmmm..
How many people in this world recgonize the “Grace” of God on their lives? Many people still think waking up alive each day is by their own doing, but they’re very wrong. This life is just one. No extra, no photocopy, no back-up. Its just one. And this life can go within a fraction of second,within the blinking of an eye.
Life is beautiful, as they say..but I say life is beautiful when you have Christ in you. Let’s all give our lives to Jesus today, let’s turn from our evil ways, let’s make this world a better place to live. Is Heaven worth missing over a little sin? How painful is it if hot water pours on your hand,you scream, you shout and you apply some medicine. But in hell, its worse than that. It keeps burning. No death,no help, no medicine,nno water. Its eternal.
Give your life to Jesus today, because the greatest mistake anyone can make in this life is to miss Heaven.
God bless you.

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Let go of your hurt

Many of us have someone in our lives who has done some crazy, hurtful thing to us or, maybe even more importantly, to somebody that we love. In our minds we think, “I know the Christian thing to do is to forgive, so I will. I will forgive him as soon as he gives me an apology.”

The problem with that is, you’re still holding on to the hurt. Truth is, that person may never ask you for forgiveness. He may never say he’s sorry, because he doesn’t get it, or she may not even realize what she’s done. So you end up stewing over something that the other person has long ago forgotten. And it’s eating you up inside!

Never hold on to a hurt, because resentment tears you up. Resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it’s going to kill someone else. It doesn’t work. You have to decide that, before anything else happens, you are going to forgive that person.

Jesus said this even in the most extreme of circumstances, as he’s hanging on the cross: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing” (Luke 23:34a NIV).

So what do you do? When you struggle with forgiving, remember the great gift of God’s forgiveness.

Remember a verse like Colossians 3:13: “Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others” (NLT). It’s not a bad one to memorize and carry with you throughout the day, because you’re going to have plenty of chances to use it.

That phrase “make allowance” is the Greek word that means “to bear with, to endure, to be tolerant.” Basically it means to cut people some slack. Jesus said, “Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy” (Matthew 5:7 NIV).

I want God’s blessing in my life and your life. One of the ways you receive that is by being merciful.

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For the Women- “Don’t lose your man”

♥ I want to talk about “Don’t lose your man”,and this is for the married women and ladies who are engaged.
Now we know that the one thing men cannot live
without apart from money is sex. But before I start I really don’t care where anyone is from or what religion
you belong to, I will be as raw and honest as possible.
I do not understand why some women do not talk about sex when we know that it is the one thing they love doing regularly with so much pleasure.
In some homes, into few years of marriage, it is filled with sex almost five times a day in different parts of the house and at odd hours, but after the few years the woman starts to back down, and starts to make excuses. What happened to the hot chic, the sexy cat that the man got married to?
What happened to the lady that would understand
the signal her man would give and immediately comply?
What happened those times when he would race home
to his sexy energetic ever ready wife who would make
him feel wanted?
I know that most women will say “I have kids who wear
me out, I have work that drains me, I got older, my sex
drive has gone under, I have a headache” to the point
that the man will now have to beg and plead before he can satisfy his sexual desires.
When you do this to your man, how do you expect him to come home everyday to look at your tired, grumpy and unfriendly face?
At that point he wants you to take him to that
“special place” were the sky is so wonderful and turn his brain around to the point that all you say will sound like sweet music to his ears.
Men are human beings who go through their
own challenges, half of which women don’t even know
because they are trying to save you from all the
What annoys me the most is when women start to
complain and nag about the men not having time for them, and how they no longer find them attractive anymore and that’s where the suspicion starts. I don’t encourage cheating at all in fact it goes against what the Bible teaches no matter what. I believe
that if we are truly sorry for our sins and we go to
God with the determination not to sin again, He is
merciful and will forgive us.
I know that men do not get married and carry it at the back of their minds that they must cheat. That’s not how it works. There are certain things that women do that trigger things in men’s brains and these things drive them to do things that they really would not have done. Most men are not so evil
and dubious, some may be cowards but women should cast their minds back to the kind of man they chose to marry and see if there were traces of that character or not.
These are what Men really want:
– They want to feel like they are in control of things
which is not bad because they are the head.
– They want to feel loved and desire words of affirmation everytime.
– They want to feel wanted all the time, it gives them
the confidence that all men crave for.
– They want to know their women are still sexually attracted to them.
– They don’t want their women to embarass them in public.
– They like their space and alone time.
– They don’t want to come home to a fat mama who is
the opposite of the sexy curvy woman he fell in love
with, because she let herself go after they got
married. Why should she try and look the same? She
is married now, who else does she have to impress?
WRONG! Men are first of all moved by what they see
before anything else. So when they can’t see that
anymore or at least an effort to getting back that
body that turned them on, they’ll probably lose
interest in the woman and find it in someone else.
– Also,men don’t want to come and hug their wives after work while smelling of onions,garlic and oil. At least the woman should take a shower before her man gets there or if there is no time spray perfume.
– Men also want to come home to a nice smelling neat and tidy home.
-Men also love women who are great cooks.
– Men want to walk into the bedroom with the bed all
made up and clothes arranged. Maybe a small note from his woman left on his pillow saying “I love you and I am glad you are home”, definitely puts an automatic smile on his face even if its for five seconds, it keeps him interested in his woman.
– Men want you to be a good listener not just a
– Men want to know that their women believes in them and is proud of them.
– Men want to know that no matter what that their women will have their back and support them, through the good and bad times.
– Men just want to see that their women are making an effort because no human is perfect.
– Men don’t want another mother but they want their women to take care of them the way they would take care of the kids.
– Men wants their women to be versatile in bed, which is not a bad thing because the man is the husband and should be free to express his sexual desires as
long as they are not life threatening or demeaning.

Ladies,if you do not try to do at least 70 percent of this regularly, trust me a younger version of you will cross your man’s path and that is exactly how the enemy works. When that younger and more energetic version of you catches his eye, your value will quietly and quickly diminish, and this young vibrant hot girl will rock his world so bad that coming home to you will become a problem because these girls can give him all these things and even more to the extent that the men find it so difficult to resist.
All the money that was supposed to go to his woman will find their way to the younger girl’s pocket. And trust me these ‘young hot girls’ can get anything they want from your man because they know the secret to getting and keeping him.
In life people don’t like to hear the truth, but no matter how bitter the truth can be, it needs to be told.
Ladies if you are guilty of these crimes and are depriving your husband of what is rightfully his then don’t be shocked when a younger version of you gets the best of him.
If you love your man deeply, keep him, pamper him,don’t lose your value in his eyes and don’t lose him to a younger version of you.

Enjoy your day.♥

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Does ‘True Love’ still exist?

That’s a big question, I keep asking myself again and again…does True Love still exists without nothing attached?
I’m an advocate for True Love but sometimes I wonder if I can still experience it once again. I’ve been heartbroken several times, most relationships I venture into, I always put in 90% into the success of the relationship. I loved the girls I was dating then more than anything else, showering them with gifts, and money etc…but at the end of it all, we still broke up. I then relaised those girls loved me because of the financial gain they’re getting from it and not because they “trully” loved me. Most times I tend to disagree with this statement – “there’s no romance without finance”… Everytime I keep hearing that statement, I get pissed off that why must “Love” be attached to financial gain? Why can’t it be unconditional? Why? Why? Why?
The ONLY “True Love” that ever existed was when God gave His Son – Jesus as a sacrifice to world…that kind of “True Love” is deep and rare. But nowadays, how many girls can still stick to their man if he has nothing. How many girls can go through hell with their man if he has a health or fiancial challenge… How many? How many men will choose to marry a poor decent humble girl than a wild city girl?… None…and its quite unfortunate.
The vanity of this world has blinded most girls, nowadays its all about the dollars,and euros first before any relationship.
I hope I can still taste and feel “true love” again…hopefully soon…who knows.

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